Signs and Symptoms of a Man Struggling

High performing men generally DO NOT talk openly about his struggles - but the signs are there if you know what to look for.

Here’s how a friend, or colleague might see, hear, or feel that a man in their life is struggling internally but not sharing it.

Verbal Cues - What He Says

• He’s confused about his wife’s moods, reactions, or emotional shifts.
  “Man, I just don’t get her anymore.” 
• He’s emotionally shut down and avoiding conflict at all costs.
  “I don’t even try to win anymore - it’s just not worth the fight.” 
• He feels undervalued or unseen by his wife and kids.
  “Yeah, yeah. I’m just the paycheck.” 
• He feels like he's constantly failing in his marriage or parenting.
  “No matter what I do, it’s never enough.” 
• He’s avoiding home life by immersing himself in work.
  “I’d rather just stay late at work than deal with her.” 
• He’s losing his confidence and struggling with his role as a husband.
  “She just doesn’t respect me anymore.” 
• He’s nostalgic for the connection that’s faded.
  “We used to have fun together, but now….” 
• He’s internally torn between his success at work and struggles at home.
  “I’m great at business, but at home, …”

Behavioral Cues - What He Does

• Works longer hours than necessary not because he has to, but because home feels like more stress than work.
• Avoids talking about his marriage or family life shifts the topic when asked or gives generic answers like "Yeah, everything's fine."
• Gets defensive or irritated easily especially when asked about his relationship or parenting.
• Jokes about marriage being ‘just how it is’ - Sarcastic, cynical or resigned attitude about relationships, marriage, parenting.
• Suddenly obsessed with fitness or self-improvement trying to regain control over something when he feels powerless at home.
• Drinks more than usual using alcohol as an escape or stress relief.
• Spends more time with single/divorced friends hanging around men who reinforce his frustration with marriage. 
• Buys expensive gifts or vacations for his wife/kids trying to compensate for emotional disconnection with money. 
• Frequently complains about “not having time” even when he controls his schedule. 
• Seems exhausted, but not from work like something else is weighing him down. 
• Starts quoting Red Pill, MGTOW, or Incel authors to put down women
  - Poople like Andrew Tate

Emotional Cues - How YOU Feel Around Him

• He carries a low-level tension - he’s not saying he’s struggling, but he feel he’s “off.” 
• Avoids eye contact or seems restless when marriage or parenting topics come up. 
• His energy is different from how he used to be - less lighthearted, less engaged. 
• Talks big about work wins but never mentions home - work is his “safe place” where he still feels respected. 
• When asked about his wife/kids, he pauses a little too long before answering, like he’s carefully choosing his words
• You can't quite name it, but you just don't feel like you can relax around him.

The Right Time to Introduce Jeremy

If someone you know is showing multiple signs from this list, here’s an easy way to plant the seed for referral:

The Casual Approach as a Friend or Colleague

"Hey man, I can tell you’ve got a lot on your plate.

I actually know someone who works with guys like us - guys who are killing it at work but might feel like they could do a better at home or just in life in general.

Behind the scenes, he’s helped a ton of men turn things around without all the therapy or ‘just talk about your feelings’ stuff.

If you’re open to it, I’d love to introduce you.

Worst case, you spend 20 minutes on a zoom with him and get some new insight.

Best case, he helps you get some areas of your life into better alignment - and no one will ever know you worked with him, unless you want to tell them.

What do you think?"

The Direct Approach if the struggle is obvious

"Listen, I’ve been where you are (or I’ve known guys in your exact spot).

You’re showing up, providing, doing everything you can, but it still feels like you’re just not getting the results you want in some area of your life. 

There’s a guy I know who helps men like us shift that fast - without guilt, blame, or dragging out the pain.

I can introduce you if you want. No pressure, just an easy convo with someone not emotionally tied to the shit you're moving through."

For the Introduction: 

The guy's name is Jeremy Roadruck - you can google him. There's only 1 of him on the internet.

30+ years working with people ages 3 to 94, wrote the only parenting book with a money-back guarantee, and more importantly, he’s a man I’ve known for a while and found him to be discreet, trustworthy, real, and funny.

As he often says, no fault, no blame, no guilt, no shame – just awareness, understanding and making things better.

Best way to get on his schedule for undivided attention is at https://www.leadlikeaking.com/book-now for a 30-minute consulting session to dig into what’s going on. 

As I understand it, just few key questions to better understand you and the “shituation” you’re dealing with. And, he's got an NDA to protect you both if that's what you feel you need.